Taking good care of ourselves in the wake of trauma often involves being bold. I am very accustomed of taking care of others. It took some courage to shift this mindset. Self care and comfort actually invokes good feelings. This counteracts negative feelings often associated with trauma. Be bold. When negative feelings become overwhelming do something loving towards yourself. A bath. A walk. A massage. All of these are creative acts of kindness. Do for yourself what you might do for a friend. Enjoy befriending yourself. I am!